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By Lynda Bradley, Licensed Professional Counselor
She is an amazing survivor. She has a baby who is the love of her life. She survived domestic violence. She survived sexual abuse as child at the hands of individuals actively engaged in satanic worship practices. (One of the participants in this diabolical activity was her biological father.) She was adopted into a family she assumed would always be there for her. She is one of the reasons I am a therapist.
This individual allowed me to provide compassion as presented by a bible verse that for me defines compassion.
“Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and truth,” –1 John 3:18, NIV
This young lady found herself becoming a victim of domestic violence with a heavy dose of predatory behaviors. Her boyfriend played on her most precious character trait: caring for others. This resulted in disastrous consequences for her and her daughter—homelessness, foster care for her baby girl, and rejection from her adoptive mother—yet, she had the courage to reach out to me.
I trusted in my professional knowledge, and in the aforementioned bible verse. My words were comprised of encouragement, direction, assurance, and confidence. I reminded her of her strength. Instead of holding her hand, I gave her resources to assist in handling her situation. Instead of empty words, I gave her words reminding her of her past victories—victories being both the products of her actions and the directions drawn by her faith. I accompanied her each step of the way as she discovered solutions that flowed into a foundation of renewed strength.
The Latin root for the word compassion is “pati,” which means “to suffer.” The prefix “com” means “with.” This strong young lady was suffering. My purpose was to walk along with her, providing direction, encouragement, and strengthening words of faith.
She is no longer homeless. She and her daughter are safe. Finally, she realizes that again, she will survive—but added to that, is she will thrive.
Exploring the Symbolic Meanings of Autumn
By Jennifer Edmonds, Licensed Professional Counselor
Thinking about autumn can bring some pleasant thoughts. I readily think about harvest festivals, haunted houses, hay rides, comfort foods! Mostly, I love the changes in the leaves that beautify our landscape. It reminds us that God’s work is so magical. Fall is a season of change that leads into winter. Our life experiences can be compared to this autumn illustration. There are symbolic meanings of fall that remind us of its amazing impact on our lives.
These seven symbolic meanings include change, mystery, preservation, protection, comfort, balance and “letting go.” Our lives are ever changing. Experiences, both positive and negative, provide personal growth and wisdom. I believe that change is critical to our life journey. We are reminded that our mind, body and spirit are always developing. Knowing that change will eventually occur, we learn the lesson of savoring the moment.
Life brings new adventures or mysteries each day. How we handle each challenge shapes our lives in many ways. In preservation, animals prepare for winter by storing food and nesting. In the fall, we tend to spend more time indoors and focus on cultivating a safe, comfortable home environment. Self-protection is seen in layering of clothing and a heightened awareness of self as well as your surroundings.
Comfort symbolizes the food and nesting aspect of fall. This allows us to learn what makes us feel warm and safe. Balance is realized as day and night are now the same length. The sun sign is Libra (the scales). Autumn is a time to be balanced with the Earth and create a life balance within us.
Lastly, “letting go” fits perfectly with our healing journey in life. Experiences bring wisdom and heartache at times. However, it is our plan to learn from our mistakes, recognize the blessings and move forward in a healthy manner. God does all things well, including the transition of the seasons. Let this be a season of hope and peace as we enjoy His wonderful works!
Our Client-Driven Approach to Faith-Based Counseling
By Beth Healey
Most of you are probably aware that in addition to utilizing best practices in the field of mental health, Samaritan also applies a spiritually-integrated approach to therapy. One of the hallmarks of this approach is that it is client-driven.
What is a spiritually-integrated approach to therapy?
This practice has been described as intentionally assessing a person’s faith belief system in the context of psychotherapy, and incorporating spiritually-based interventions.
Can this approach be beneficial to people of any faith or religious background?
Studies have shown that religion impacts a person’s psychological functioning. A spiritually-integrated approach has proven to be effective with people from any faith background. In addition to clinical approaches, therapists can encourage clients to draw on their spiritual resources to lessen emotional pain, cope with difficult situations, find solutions to problems, and promote the healing process.
How does it work?
Clients themselves often create openings for the dialogue to begin (for example, mentioning praying, going to church, talking to their pastors, questioning aspects of their faith or feelings about God, etc.). The therapist may follow up by asking about the client’s beliefs and values, and how they can determine what will be useful for them in regard to their struggles and suffering.
What are some of the resources available on spiritually-integrated therapy?
Internationally known academic and practician, Kenneth Pargament, PhD, has researched, written and taught extensively on the practice of spiritually-integrated therapy. His work has helped clinicians learn how faith influences a person’s mental and physical health.
Samaritan hosted Dr. Pargament at our Sewickley headquarters in 2014, who presented an educational program to our own as well as other Pittsburgh area therapists on the subject. (LEARN MORE about Kenneth Pargament and his well-known areas of research, such as religious coping.)
Samaritan is a member of, and accredited by the Solihten Institute in Denver, CO, which is an international resource for faith-based counseling centers that specialize in evidence-based, integrated healing. We are among 50+ other member centers that practice spiritually-integrated therapy, collectively treating over 70,000 men, women, and children across the U.S. and Japan each year.
If you'd like more information about our spiritually-integrated therapy, spiritual direction, or coaching services for pastors and youth directors, please email: firstname.lastname@example.org or click on the Services tab of this website.
Jennifer Edmonds, MA, NCC, LPC
The month of June is a time of transition. June brings life changes, including weddings, graduations, birthdays, and other life events that are typically very exciting transitions. Personally, I love the hot, sunny weather. It’s time for me to bring out the flip flops, shorts, and take the top off my Jeep Wrangler!
People who struggle with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) REALLY look forward to the summer. SAD is a type of depression that is related to the changes in seasons. SAD begins and ends around the same time every year. Most people feel the onset in the fall; it continues throughout the winter months, causing symptoms of fatigue and mood issues. Other signs of SAD include sadness, loss of interest in desired activities, sleeping problems, changes in appetite, and suicidal ideation.
Summer onset or Reverse Seasonal Affect Disorder is rare, but equally concerning. This disorder produces anxiety, agitation, and depression that starts in the spring and continues into the summer months. Research is limited on this type of SAD, but some experts argue that it may be winter-onset disguised as summer depression because those afflicted may spend their time indoors with the window shades drawn. People may be physically active, losing a significant amount of weight due to not eating properly, but are more prone to suicidal thoughts.
People with SAD can benefit from light therapy, “which is thought to affect brain chemicals linked to mood and sleep, easing SAD symptoms.” (Visit https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/light-therapy/about/pac-20384604 to learn more.) In Reverse SAD, some people feel comfortable staying indoors, in cool air-conditioned spaces, or taking a cool shower/bath. There is no simple treatment for this type of depression. However, I have found that helping a person develop a list of individualized depression-reducing activities or coping skills works best. This helps to ensure a healthy transition into the summer.
If you—or someone you know—are exhibiting symptoms of SAD or reverse SAD, give Samaritan a call. Jennifer or one of our other therapists will be able to confirm a diagnosis and design a course of treatment. Light is only one remedy for SAD. Cognitive behavioral therapy and changes in diet are often very effective.
Life transitions can be just as stressful as they are rewarding. But if a disorder like SAD or other type of depression has got you in its clutches, it becomes extremely difficult to see your way through change. Hurting in this way is not necessary; the pain is robbing you of joy and the ability to persevere. Remember—a disorder is a disorder, and it does not define WHO YOU ARE
Best Friend, Biggest Cheerleader, and Strongest Role Model
Jennifer Edmonds, MA, NCC, LPC
The people I counsel often ask, "What do we learn from our mother and what makes this relationship so special?" I can only speak from my own personal relationship with my mother and the joy she brings into my life.
The mother/daughter relationship is very influential in a woman's life. As we grow, we watch our mother, how she gets made up, carries herself, and develops relationships with others in the world. My mother was a homemaker as my father worked in a steel mill. She taught me how to bake, be the perfect hostess when guests arrived, and how to look fabulous in doing so!
I loved when my parents kissed and would be openly affectionate towards one another. They were not ashamed to show us girls (four daughters) that open affection is normal and love is meant to be shown. I never witnessed my parents fighting though I know that no relationship is perfect. They made sure to shelter us from any problems, allowing the most wonderful childhood filled with community activities, sports, church, family gatherings, and other special moments.
My father passed away when I was 16 years old leaving me devastated. We was my world and "super hero." Until this point, I was a "daddy's girl" now having to lean on my mother for support.
Through the years, my relationship with my mother has grown into a true love affair. She is my best friend, biggest cheerleader, and strongest role model on how to be a lady. Although she has taught me many things in preparing for womanhood, her love for Christ ranks above most. She has allowed her Christianity to guide her actions and beliefs. This has been passed down to me and my three sisters. We all have a different relationship with our mother, but what ties us together is our Christian foundation.
In reflecting on Mother's and Memorial Days, I have learned that you cannot take your loved ones for granted. Live every moment and embrace the blessings that mothers and fathers bring to your life. Know that even when they pass, their imprint lives through you and will be passed to future generations. I want take time to say "Mommy, I love you" and appreciate the sacrifices you made to allow me to become the woman I am.
Spring time is a time of possibilities. It can be a time of new beginnings. Yet for many it is also a stressful time when relationships are not going well. So there isn’t that inner peace or hope for a better day.
What can one do? I turn to the scriptures to see what this man Jesus of Nazareth said over 2000 years ago. He said, “Come follow Me!” How do we follow? What was his message? I find an answer for me in Christ’s Sermon on the Mount, better known as the Beatitudes.
Jesus is asking us to have an attitude of being; being an image of his love and concern even in the midst of sorrow and despair. So I need to witness to the other side of sadness – joy; the other side of anxiety – peace; the other side of pain – comfort.
Louis M. Savary in his book: The New Spiritual Exercises reflects on having the attitude of Christ Jesus. He talks about being poor in sprit as being willing to realize how much more there is in life that we are called to become in the midst of our losses and in our poverty and grief. It is when we can mourn with others and show them comfort that we are being Christ-like. When we hunger and thirst for what is right, then we are standing with those who are in need of justice. We are “pure of heart” when we can see the presence of God in the other who is shunned and unnoticed. In being a “peacemaker” Savary implies that we need to seek justice without being violent i.e. being peaceful from the inside out so as to not be tempted to lash out but rather see God in each person no matter their stance or background.
Mahatma Gandhi read and prayed the Christian Scriptures: Matthew 5: 1-12 The Beatitudes daily. He was a spring time renewal for his people of India. We too can be the hope, the promise of new life by being beatitude people, listening, encouraging, believing in each person who comes into our lives. This is how we follow Christ Jesus and become his disciples of love. This is the hope of this time of year – new life in many forms within nature and within our hearts. Are you; are we “Beatitude People” for our corner of the world? I hope so.
1 Peter: 3-8
Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.
By Beth Healey, Director of Development and Marketing
As we celebrate African American History month, the Samaritan Spirit is exploring the strength of faith and community. I approached one of my colleagues, Lynda Bradley, a Licensed Professional Counselor who is African American, and asked her this question: How do people who have endured so much opposition and pain continue to persevere? She didn’t pause for more than a second before she responded: faith and community.
A little later, Lynda shared an article with me about Solomon Northup. In 1841 in Saratoga Springs, New York, Solomon was lured into slavery by being offered a bogus opportunity to use his musical talents. Solomon was drugged, shackled, and put on a ship sailing to New Orleans where he was sold at the slave market. For the next 12 years, Solomon endured unspeakable trauma. But like many other enslaved people, he coped by singing spiritual songs that reminded him of the faith instilled in him as a child. When he was finally reunited with his family, Solomon’s rescue was published nationally. He wrote his memoir, 12 Years a Slave, and between 1853 and 1957, he gave speaking tours. Ultimately, he went on to help other enslaved people escape to Canada through the Underground Railroad. Both African Americans and African Canadians attested to Solomon’s extraordinary perseverance by relying on the strength of his faith and the support of his community.
God made us social beings. We are meant to be in community with one another. Hebrews 10:24-25 – And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
Do you know people who deliberately isolate themselves? I once knew a couple that did. During my conversations with them, they often expressed anger, irrational fears, and signs of depression. There’s a big difference between spending time alone to relax after a stressful day--praying, meditating, reading a good book, taking a walk—and choosing to distance yourself from other people as a way of life.
In the mental health field, we see people who are suffering the effects of not being a part of a supportive community. They may be suffering from depression. They may be secretly self-medicating. They may be alienating themselves from family and friends. But once hearts begin to heal, and relationships begin to mend, people find themselves yearning to be a part of something bigger.
When we come together to help and encourage one another, we create a supportive community where love, faith, and trust can flourish. Solomon Northup didn’t choose to be enslaved for 12 years of his life. But he did choose to do whatever he could to inspire and rescue others through his faith and a supportive community.
How Living by One Word
Changed My Life
By Jamie Mehok, Licensed Professional Counselor
I am someone who has learned from the past 27 years that I cannot set resolutions. It’s not due to forgetting about them two weeks after I make them, it’s actually just the opposite. I become fixated, placing severely high expecta-tions on myself – knowing full well that I will fail, and causing myself to spiral. It wasn’t until 2012 that the concept of living by One Word came into place.
Living by One Word is the idea that in lieu of resolutions, you would instead reflect on the previous year, and then gain understanding of what you need to grow in and what you need to sustain.
Over the last several years, I have been living by One Word. Each year, I grow so much more than I had when I was making resolutions. For example, 2017 was the year of Trust, and 2018 was the year of Pray for me. In 2017, I had been working as a crisis therapist and running myself to the bone. I needed to Trust that every-thing would eventually work out for my betterment. In 2017, I started looking into outpatient positions, because I knew for my own health and well-being, I could not maintain at my previous employer. This led to 2018 being the year of Praying for opportunities and for the strength to continue on, day to day.
God answers the prayers we lift up to Him, and I was able to see that firsthand last year. This year, my One Word is Commit. I put the other two words—Trust and Pray—into play and Committed to Trusting God and Praying continuously through all circumstances that come my way. Each year, I get to see God in a new light, and am able to love Him and the community of people around me much deeper than I had the previous year.
Want to learn more? You can purchase One Word That Will Change Your Life (Expanded Edition Hardcover – October 28, 2013) by Jon Gordon, Jimmy Page, and Dan Britton by clicking HERE.
Answered by Samaritan therapist, Jennifer Edmonds
What things negatively impact people during the
It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but
with the pressure of commercialism and personal expectations,
it can become the most stressful time. I have noticed a pattern
in my 25 years of providing counseling that people tend to
mentally regress, starting at Thanksgiving and continuing through
to the New Year. I’ve found that being around loved ones (some-
times not such a merry time), unresolved grief/loss (missing a
loved one who has passed), overspending (leading to financial strain), and Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) issues take a significant toll on people.
How do you help them?
I start to discuss these issues with those I counsel before the holidays to gauge their emotional state. And together, we develop a “survival plan” for the holidays.
If the issue is overspending, we explore affordable, more personalized options in gift giving such as: the gift of quality time (spending time with someone who might not have loved ones close by or feel lonely during the holiday season), preparing baked goods, volunteering at a local church that is serving holiday dinners, engaging in random acts of kindness, and giving homemade gifts that have a special meaning.
If family gatherings are stressful, I encourage people to go into the event with a positive, cheerful mindset, bring a supportive friend along, and if necessary, put a time limit on their stay to avoid possible conflict.
If people are lonely (but in good health), we could identify ways that they might participate in community activities. My church is very involved with the Salvation Army’s bell ringing program and our choir visits nursing homes to sing Christmas carols. Many other local churches serve Christmas dinner to those who are homeless, lonely, or whose loved ones are not local and/or have other familial obligations. Social service organizations and churches offer Christmas gift assistance and presents to families in need. There are many opportunities to
How can any of us help?
I live in a neighborhood with many elderly people. I make an effort to “check on them” with a holiday plate from my mother (who is a very talented cook—in my opinion the best!) and give them a Christmas card to show that they are appreciated. I also shovel their sidewalks during times of inclement weather. These are the acts of kindness and true meaning of the season that often get lost in the glitz and glamour.
Christmas can be a season of great joy, a time to celebrate God’s great love for us. It can also be a time of healing and renewed strength. So as we celebrate the holidays, we need to remember this message, share it, and demonstrate it to those who are struggling. It will help them to keep moving forward with continued hope, strength and healing in the New Year. Moreover, it will do the same for you.
The Core of a Generous Spirit
By Judy Connor - November 2018
As therapists, we frequently hear it said, “I just want to be happy.” Still, happiness can seem like a riddle because the more we seek it, the more elusive it becomes. In ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, Neuropsychiatrist and holocaust survivor, Viktor Frankl wrote, “For … happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen [and] you have to let it happen by not caring about it.”
A personal dedication to a cause greater than ourselves does not occur without the inner and typically intentional cultivation a generous spirit. An openness and willingness to share our material, emotional, spiritual and intellectual gifts with others regardless of our own circumstances is at the core of what is meant by generosity of spirit. Beyond charitable giving and volunteerism, generosity of spirit can be defined as a way of authentically being in and engaging with the world, free from fear, envy, and small-mindedness. It requires one to go beyond mere tolerance to a genuine embracing of the ‘other’, to risk knowing and being known, and to stand ready to sacrifice for what matters most.
In other words, having a true spirit of generosity will often, and perhaps always, mean choosing the high road over the path of least resistance. The good news is that none of us can attain, or even seek, a generous spirit without also serving and sustaining our own mental and emotional well-being. With each day that we live life informed by purpose rather than ease, when we live generously, we come a few steps closer to the lives we are all called upon to live. It is on that journey, then, that we find what it is to be really happy.
By Beth Healey - October 2018
What comes to your mind when October rolls around? I can’t help but smile when I think back to nearly three decades ago when my son, dressed up as a pumpkin, put his tiny hand into my husband’s, and ventured out to experience his first Halloween. I can still see his skinny little legs sticking out from under that big, orange pumpkin suit…the little “stem” cap on his head. That’s when he earned the affectionate nickname, “little pumpkin.”
Memories that we make with our kids bring us immeasurable joy, October will end as it always does, on a day when the young and the young at heart indulge in the fun and festivities of "pretend" scary stuff.
As much as I prefer to write about lighthearted things, I am about to switch gears for a bit. October is also National Bullying Prevention Month, and there’s no pretense of fun when 160,000 U.S. children stay home from school each day rather than face something that truly is scary: bullying.
National Bullying Prevention Month came about in 2006 to raise awareness and educate adults and children on how to handle bullying and ways to prevent it. Bullying can have devastating effects on those who are bullied, as well as those who do the bullying. For example, a child who bullies other children is four times more likely to be convicted of a crime by age 24, and 60% will have at least one criminal conviction in their lifetimes. Children who are bullied suffer not only from the outward wounds of physical bullying, but also from internal wounds resulting from all types of bullying, which can lead to isolation, depression, and anxiety.
Bullying is categorized by the Center for Disease Control as physical, emotional, and social. Bullying via technology, a.k.a. cyber-bullying, is on the rise. (Check out PREVENTING BULLYING) Did you know that one in four students is bullied, and over 70% of youth report having witnessed bullying at school? However, “when bystanders intervene, the bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time.” (SOURCE)
Adults play a vital role in bully prevention. Read what our therapist, Jamie Mehok, says (in the article that follows) about how parents can recognize the signs of bullying and help their children to become safe both inside and outside of their homes.
There are many programs and resources available that teach us how to address bullying, as well as trained therapists who can help a wounded child to heal. If bullying is an issue in your child’s life, don’t wait to seek help—whether your child is the target or the one doing the bullying. Not sure if what your child is experiencing is bullying? FIND OUT.
To learn more, click on the links below. To get compassionate, professional care for your child, call Samaritan at 412-741-7430. We’re here to help.
P.S. Back to the lighthearted stuff. If you have kids or grand-kids and you enjoy celebrating Halloween with them, continue to build some great memories that will stick with you 30 years later. I’m a parent, not a therapist, so I speak the following not only from life experience, but also from the heart of a mother:
When you embrace all the joy in life that you can—and pass that habit on to your children—dealing with the hard times in life becomes a little easier. Heap lots of support and encouragement on your children. Tell them everyday how proud you are of them, how much you love them, and how much God loves them, Praise their gifts and accomplishments. These things will help them to grow up with healthy self-esteem and a "can do" attitude—good armor for dealing with the tough stuff.
LEARN MORE about bullying.
Making Home Safe Again
By Jamie Mehok, licensed Professional Counselor - October 2018
The days of school yard bullies, bloody noses, and black eyes have begun to shift to a new environment. While the battle remains the same, the battlefield has shifted from being primarily in the schools to the safety of the home. Where the wounds shift from the physical to internal "hemorrhages." This shift also changes the lasting effects, where one was limited to time and space is now unavoidable due to the Internet and social media. These are the wounds that many therapists attend to on a daily basis.
Internal wounds not only affect a student's learning ability, concentration, and school attendance, but they also affect the way a student views him/herself within the community. In a society of "pick yourself up by your bootstraps," or "suck it up buttercup," adolescents and teenagers are taught to minimize the posts, comments, and direct messages they are receiving; internalizing their feelings and thoughts which later come back to haunt them.
Change has begun in this area by acknowledging that it is happening and be-coming proactive in schools and in homes. Three ways to become proactive in your home include: teaching your child to become assertive, standing their ground, and setting boundaries. Every social media site, app, and video game contains a blocking feature; by helping your child set boundaries with the
bullies will in turn increase their self-esteem and willingness to be assertive in the future.
Another tool is to continually educate yourself on warning signs of bullying as well as how to protect your children online. Through many studies and articles, it has been noted that 63% of students will not tell an adult that they are being bullied. Therefore, it is up to us to ensure our children’s safety inside and outside of the home.
Finally, the biggest tool you have as an adult in the community is the ability to listen; stopping bullying when you witness it, and then listening to the child to help them work through their emotions rather than internalizing them. Bullying will not end overnight, however with adults becoming more available and attentive to the children around them we make our homes safe again.
Transitioning to a New School Year
By Beth Healey - September 2018
Another school year has begun. Children of all ages—from pre-school through high school—will inevitably experience stress, whether it’s due to academic struggles, making the team, fitting in, and so forth. Yes, it’s only natural—and to be expected. But how do parents know if their child is upset over a temporary problem or setback, or if the child’s emotions run much deeper?
If you are a parent, you may find it difficult to know for sure if your child is struggling with clinical depression and/or anxiety, or other problems. It is often hard for us to tell because our kids may be working hard at keeping their true feelings hidden. We may wonder if their behavior is typical for their age and will change as they mature. I know I found it tough sometimes to make that determination when my own son was a child.
There are signs that children and teens exhibit that indicate something might be seriously wrong. If you learn what to look for and how to ask the right questions, you will feel more empowered to help and support your child.
I would be remiss to not mention that many young men and women returning to college or, perhaps, starting their freshman year may also be struggling silently—but critically. I have listed links following this article that may be helpful to you, regardless of the age of your children.
In a nutshell, arm yourself with knowledge. NAMI—the National Alliance on Mental Illness—is a good resource that provides useful information on this topic and numerous others. (By the way, the term "mental illness" may still have a stigma attached to it in some people's minds, but don't let lingering prejudicial attitudes inhibit you from seeking help. Adults and children alike who are struggling with the effects of stress, trauma, and emotional and relational issues have nothing to be embarrassed about. Experiencing these things is part of being human. Strong people who desire to live their best lives seek help.)
Should you feel your child is in need of counseling, you are not alone—and we are here to help. Samaritan has multiple offices in Western PA and is only a phone call away. We have counselors who have years of training and experience in working with children and adolescents.
If your child is under the age of 18, you—as a parent or guardian—can call us at 412-741-7430 to schedule your child’s appointment.
If you are divorced, don't have insurance, or your child is 18 or older, there may be circumstances for which you have questions. Don’t hesitate to call us to have your questions answered or to learn more about our counseling services for children and youth.
Out of Our Homes, but Not Out of Our Hearts
By Lynda Bradley, licensed Professional Counselor - June 2018
If you have children graduating, thank you for preparing another young adult for our world community. (There are also a lot of us who clearly remember our kids' graduations regardless of how long it's been.) As parents, we go from wiping their noses to holding back our tears as they walk across the stage. Yes, the walk across the stage leads to them walking out of our homes--but not out of our hearts. As God holds our hands, we continue to hold their hands. Isaiah 41:13 says, "I am the LORD your God. I am holding your hand, so do not be afraid. I am here to help you."
This verse reminds us God is holding our hands even when we are not aware. You'll continue to hold your children’s hands even when they are not aware. When life brings challenges, we reach out for God’s hand. When life becomes challenging for our children, they reach out for our hands.
Now is the stage in their lives when we are called to speak less, listen more, and of course “hold their hands.” Remember, the greatest commandment is love, therefore share the good news of the Gospel with your young adult by being the Gospel each time you are with them. Welcome the joy of seeing your children give forth the gifts you have given to them!
Pain in This Life Is Temporary
By Beth Healey, Director of Development and Marketing - April 2018
We all know how difficult it is to imagine what good could possibly come out of a situation that’s causing us so much pain. In my own life, I look back on trials I’ve endured and ask myself, “What have I learned from this? What good has come out of it?”
I’ve been able to find the answers to those questions because John 16 helps me to gain perspective. In verse 21, Jesus said to his disciples:
A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.
How true! While in labor, it’s difficult to focus on anything but the pain. But as soon as you receive your precious child in your arms, your pain is replaced by profound joy.
In verse 22, Jesus continued:
…So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.
The disciples were confused by what Jesus was telling them. The agony that Jesus endured leading up to and during his crucifixion also brought great suffering to his disciples. It was difficult for them to understand or to see beyond the pain. But Jesus had assured them:
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
This verse says it all to me. We all encounter troubles in our lives, and for some the troubles are immeasurably greater. The atrocities committed by humans against other humans are unspeakably painful. Yet there is always hope, there is always the promise of peace because Jesus overcame the world!