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By Tom Kneier, Licensed Professional Counselor

Humility. Webster says it derives from the Latin, humilis, for the word humble, meaning “lowly, insignificant, on the ground”; similar to the Latin word, humus – rich soil. It generates a picture of getting close to the earth; even in the dirt. For those of us in the field of therapy, it might conjure up the word “grounded”. And this is most appropriate.

Being grounded in the therapeutic setting is about being attuned to the present; giving full attention to the moment. I’ve seen my clients, who suffer from anxiety and overwhelm, preoccupied with the future and worst case scenarios. What if this happens? What if she does that? What if I can’t (fill in the blank)? Their worry is fueled by tomorrows that are completely outside their control.

Many effective interventions are rooted in refocusing clients on the present. Things like deep diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and attentiveness to what is being experienced through the five senses at that moment in the room and in one’s chair, including feeling your two feet firmly planted on the ground.

What an apt concept for humility. When your two feet are on the ground, you can see where you stand in relation to others and to the rest of the world. You know who you are, and who you are not! I know that when I see myself accurately this way, I am profoundly humbled.

Phillipians 2: 3-4 instructs us to “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others.” (NRSV) To be truly grounded then in humility, is not about thinking little of yourself, but seeing yourself accurately in the service of others.

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That's me and my adult son.

Way back when I was a kid, I had just about every symptom of anxiety and depression that there was! However, at the time I was growing up, the subject of mental health was—well—it just wasn’t a popular subject. Things like #anxiety, #depression, #abuse, and #stress in children were rarely identified, much less talked about. And there were so many of us kids who needed help—just like there are today.

A lot of the stressors have changed throughout the years—issues that kids struggle with today differ in a lot of ways from the issues of the seventies. But in today’s world there are numerous resources for #parents. Information is as close as our smartphones. Programs take place in schools and communities that educate and raise awareness. Physicians provide #screenings. Informed parents understand that emotional wounds are as painful as physical ones and require immediate attention.

As a parent myself, I know what it’s like to try and raise a child “the right way.” You don’t want to make mistakes, but no parent is perfect. You strive to keep your child safe and healthy. You want to prepare him/her to live a happy, good life in a very tough world. IT’S NOT EASY.

Although it isn’t easy, you can help yourself and your child by arming yourself with knowledge. If your child has a runny nose and a cough, you know that most likely, he has a cold. But if after a week, his symptoms have not improved and may have even worsened, your gut tells you to get him to the doctor.

But what if your child’s behavior seems abnormal, strange. Perhaps disturbing. Your gut is telling you that something just isn’t right. There are no tell-tale signs like a runny nose, cough, or fever. So HOW DO YOU KNOW if it’s time for your child to see a mental health professional?

Click HERE to review our Facts for Parents. Whether your child is very young, in his/her teens, or is a young adult, you will find useful information to help guide you in recognizing when something is hurting your child ON THE INSIDE.

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By Lynda Bradley, Licensed Professional Counselor

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me.” Some cite this as a children’s rhyme and some an Old English adage sited in 1862. I would strongly suggest humans have always known that names can and do hurt. Wars have escalated due to name-calling. Lives, have been destroyed due to name-calling. Name-calling has the potential to trigger strong negative emotions. Social media is ripe of exam Want to add a caption to this image? Click the Settings icon. ples of detrimental results due to name-calling.

Are you asking yourself, “Why is she telling us something we already know?” My goal is to provide evidence of how detrimental name-calling can be for all of us. There is a school of psychology called Psycholinguistics. Psycholinguistics is the study of the mental aspects of language and speech. It is primarily concerned with the ways in which language is represented and processed in the brain. In other words, the words we hear, the words we use to express thoughts have an effect on our thoughts.

The words we use to express how we feel about ourselves have significant control of our perception of ourselves. The words others use to express how they feel about us have significant control of our perception of ourselves.

Season your thoughts with the spices of encouragement, resilience, comfort, hope, and love. Let your life taste like a glorious cake.

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